I recently had the wonderful opportunity to preach at Grace Point Community Church. The topics of my talk was the tongue. It was part of a series we are doing called Street Smarts. Below is my sermon outline for my talk. If you are more of a listener than a reader you can listen to it HERE.
5 C’s of Life-Giving Communication
(Proverbs 18.21; Ephesians 4.25-32)
Introduction:
Over the past month we have been studying the book of Proverbs in a series we have titled, Street Smarts. Our base verse for the series is Proverbs 1.20, “Wisdom calls aloud in the street.” The goal behind the series is to point out that there are two different types of wisdom, wisdom from God and earthly wisdom. Earthly wisdom is often referred in this world as having street smarts. We want to have street smarts but not so much in the way the world thinks. We want to have heavenly street smarts and we want to know what it means to live life according to how God desires us to live it.
In the series we have already looked at giving, compassion, fear, hard work, and purity. Today we are going to look at the tongue. I will never forget in middle school, sitting in the main service and hearing our pastor announce the topic of the sermon and hearing it was on the use of the tongue. I remember frantically getting out my Bible, notebook and pen and feverously taking notes to realize halfway through that this had nothing to do with kissing which was very disappointing to me. So just to clarify this morning, this has nothing to do with kissing and everything to do with glorifying God with our speech.
Read Proverbs 18.21
The writer of Proverbs has much more to say about the tongue. Listen to some of these warnings:
Proverbs 10:19 When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.
Proverbs 12:18 Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
Proverbs 15:4 The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.
Proverbs 17:20 A man of perverse heart does not prosper; he whose tongue is deceitful falls into trouble.
Proverbs 17:28 Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue.
Proverbs 21:23 He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity.
The tongue, according to God, literally is either a spring of life or a pit of death to not only ourselves but to others around us. So how can we make sure that our speech is life-giving instead of speech that brings death?
5 C’s of Life-Giving Communication
Read Ephesians 4.25-32
1. Be Correct (Ephesians 4.25)
- Speak Out
- Speak the Truth
- Speak the Truth Lovingly
Example: Someone who is in the church that we feel may be harming themselves spiritually. Our obligation is to first speak out, but to speak the truth and to do so with love.
2. Be Current (Ephesians 4.26-27)
- It is not always sinful to be angry
- It is sinful not to solve problems daily
- Failing to keep current gives the Devil an opportunity
Example: Pastor Pow-wows where we check to make sure there is nothing between any of us that may give Satan any room to cause division.
3. Be Constructive (Ephesians 4.29)
- Don’t use “unwholesome” words
1. Your momma’s so dumb it took her an hour to make minute rice
2. Your momma’s so dumb she stayed up all night studying for her blood test
- Speak only edifying words
Challenge: How many of your conversations today ended up with the other person feeling better about who they are? How often, even in sarcasm, do we tear each other down and rarely give thought to building each other up with our words.
4. Be Controlled (Ephesians 4.31)
- Exercise Self Control. Don’t allow the situation to control you
- Put off unbiblical reactions: bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, slander, malice
5. Be Compassionate (Ephesians 4.32)
- Make the decision to act in a Christlike fashion
- Don’t allow yourself to react to the unbiblical actions of others.
- Put on biblical actions and attitudes: kind, tender-hearted, forgiving
Challenge: If words such as, I’m sorry, How can I help?, is there anything I can do, etc. not in your vocabulary then perhaps you need to start working on being more compassionate with your speech. The phrase, “If you don’t have anything nice to say than it is better to say nothing at all” is true on some levels but what is best is to work on creating a vocabulary that is full of compassion than just being silent.
These five principles of speech are necessary for us to develop so that we can give life instead of death with our words.
Conclusion:
Just a reminder that one way we can have street smarts is to heed the words of Proverbs 18.21, “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” The words that God desires to hear aloud in the street are life-giving words. May all the words that come out of your mouth be pleasing to the ears of others but more importantly to the ears of God.
I had the great opportunity of having lunch with Adam Purcell, the Family Life Pastor at LifePoint Community Church. We talked about life and ministry and had a great time, but one thing in particular stood out to me that he had said.
